We definitely took a risk with the title. First it was sort of the Working Title, the joke thing we stuck in until we thought of the real one, because we knew we’d never dare call it that. But then after talking about it with enough people and laughing about it for so long, I think we grew attached and we figured shooting from the hip was sort of the name of the game here.
So yes, it is done with a wink and I think it is clear that one of the many hopes for this book, in terms of the message it communicates, is that all experiences are valid. There will be funny stories, filthy stories (if we didn’t appreciate the kind of experience you are alluding to I really don’t think we would be doing this book in the first place), awkward, sad; I hope there will be love stories. Angry stories. All of that stuff— the point being, we could sit here and talk about “ideas about women and men and sex,” or we could just honestly talk about our own experiences.
The rest of it is all abstraction and intellectualizing of something that is so individual and so complex (even when it isn’t), and it’s tempting to talk about stuff that way— really tempting (as in, I do it all the time)— but this book, if not my blog, is being done with the hope to counter all of that bullshit. Because there is something about telling your story, the whole story, that can never be invalidated. Whether you come or don’t (or laugh, or, yes cry) I think storytelling, and in this case storytelling about sex, ekes us all closer to understanding and mutual respect and compassion and a little bit further away from “typical male experiences” and “typical female.”
But yes, to answer your question, There Will Be Pounding.”